Realitate unica, perceptii diferite

Am o veste proasta: niciodata nu vei fi obiectiv/a. Niciodata nu vei putea vedea realitatea asa cum este de fapt. Poate fi un lucru rau, sau un lucru bun. E doar o chestiune de alegere.

Mai am o veste proasta: toate scuzele si amanarile si „nu pot”-urile si „nu inca”-urile pe care ti le-ai spus in minte pana acum sunt cel mai probabil, false. It’s all in your head. Nu ma crezi?

Contextul in care percepem ceea ce ( ni ) se intampla reprezinta totul. Experienta noastra personala anterioara, prejudecatile, sentimentele, parerea noastra despre noi insine, toate astea sunt niste lentile prin care vedem lumea exterioara si prin care „contorizam” feedback-ul celorlalti. Putem sa o facem in favoarea noastra sau in defavoarea noastra. E doar o chestiune de alegere.

Un singur eveniment exterior, unic in felul sau, poate fi interpretat in mii de variante diferite, in functie de cei care il privesc si de bagajul lor emotional si cognitiv. Prin urmare, informatia din exterior pe care o primim, desi extrem de importanta, nu are nicio insemnatate. Ceea ce facem cu informatia, felul in care o transformam, felul in care profitam de ea, asta este ceea ce-i confera insemnatate. ( un alt mod de a raspunde la intrebarea „Daca un copac cade in padure si nu l-a auzit si vazut nimeni, inseamna sau nu ca a cazut?” ). E doar o chestiune de alegere.

Invatam sa interpretam un eveniment pe parcursul vietii. Putem sa invatam sa vedem jumatatea plina sau jumatatea goala a paharului. Daca undeva, pe parcursul vietii, ne-a fost folositor sa dam o interpretare lucrurilor intr-un mod negativ, o vom face in continuare, pentru ca e ceva ce am invatat ca e util sa facem. Insa un mod de interpretare poate fi dezvatat, asa cum a fost si invatat. Nu e un lucru usor, dar e un lucru posibil. E doar o chestiune de alegere.

Inca nu ma crezi?

8 citate favorite din autorul meu favorit

1. Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

2. Know what you want. Know why you want it.

3. How long will you further prolong your suffering in a series of short-lived near escapes, instead of crashing yourself against the wall with all your anger, for as many times as needed in order to break it down?

4. Too many people focus on being liked by others. Too few focus on being respected by others.

5. You’ve clinged so much on this self-help shit that you forgot how to actually enjoy what you’re doing. No one’s forcing you do read or do all that shit. You don’t have to.

Your rules are only here to limit your possibilities.

Who cares about time management and how others are „improving”, as long as you do something that you’re passionate about. That’s the whole point: finding something that you enjoy so much that you lose yourself in it and forget about all this „Start living your life in 30 easy steps” bullshit. ( Playing World of Warcraft for 20 hours a day doesn’t apply to my example, though ).

People find meaning in different things: in sex, in helping others, in teaching, in creating something, etc… It’s different from man to man. No one could or should tell you what should be meaningful to you.

Stop living your life according to a template.

6. Our personalities are so complex and constantly evolving, and still, we mistakenly think that if a person doesn’t like us, or something shitty outside our control happens, it says something about us. Whereas, when we finally realize that who we are as people isn’t really related to the way a random event happens; When we realize that there’s so many things that create our self-image, and define who we are, we can finally let all this games and fear go, and focus on having fun and appreciate the moments that trully mater to us.

7. Scarcity mentality or abundance mentality is about potential ( or lack of ), not about whatever happened in your past.

8. Your actions define yourself. Words, visualisations, inspirational readings, movies and other forms of mental masturbation are useless if they aren’t congruent with what you do for yourself.

Of course, actions matter more when you are aware of it and learn to appreciate yourself for that. And when you learn the importance of taking small steps.

Everything matters. Every little step, every action you take ( or lack of ), no matter how insignificant seems, matters. You either push yourself forward or reject yourself. It all reflects on your self-esteem.

If all you do is quitting, making excuses and feeling sorry for yourself, guess what your life is gonna be all about…

PS: In caz ca nu v-ati dat seama, autorul meu favorit sunt eu. Chiar si in engleza.